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Questions for couples: 140 questions to ask your partner

Deep ones, silly ones, flirty ones and a few for long distance. Pick a deck, get a random question and answer it together tonight.

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What's something you've changed your mind about since we met?

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How to use these questions

  1. Pick a calm moment

    A walk, a long dinner or ten minutes before bed. Phones down, except for this one.

  2. Answer separately first

    Think about your own answer before you hear theirs. You'll be surprised how often you see things differently.

  3. Listen, then ask one more

    The best part is the follow-up: "Why that?" or "When did you first feel that?". There are no wrong answers.

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All 140 questions for couples

Deep talk questions

For the nights you want to go past “how was your day?”

  1. What's something you've changed your mind about since we met?
  2. When do you feel most like yourself with me?
  3. What's a fear you don't often say out loud?
  4. Which moment in your childhood shaped you the most?
  5. What do you wish more people understood about you?
  6. What's something you're still healing from?
  7. When did you last feel really proud of yourself?
  8. What does a good life look like to you, ten years from now?
  9. What's one thing you need more of from me, but haven't asked for?
  10. How do you know when you're starting to feel overwhelmed?
  11. What's a belief you grew up with that you've let go of?
  12. When do you feel most loved by me?
  13. What's the hardest thing you've ever forgiven someone for?
  14. What part of your life feels most unfinished right now?
  15. What's a question you wish I'd ask you more often?
  16. How do you like to be comforted when you're sad?
  17. What's one thing about our relationship you never want to change?
  18. What's something you're quietly worried about lately?
  19. Which friendship taught you the most about love?
  20. What would you tell your younger self about relationships?

Fun questions

Light, silly and great for car rides or a slow Sunday.

  1. What's the most useless talent you have?
  2. If our relationship were a movie, what genre would it be?
  3. What's a food you pretend to like?
  4. Which song would play every time you walk into a room?
  5. What's the weirdest thing you believed as a kid?
  6. If you could swap lives with any animal for a day, which one?
  7. What's your most-used emoji, and what does it say about you?
  8. Which fictional couple are we most like?
  9. What's a hill you'd happily die on?
  10. What's the most embarrassing thing in your search history (that you'll admit to)?
  11. If we opened a tiny shop together, what would it sell?
  12. What's your go-to karaoke song?
  13. Which of my habits would you put in a museum?
  14. What's the best gift you've ever received, and why?
  15. If you had to eat one meal for a month, what would it be?
  16. What would your wrestler name be?
  17. What's a small thing that makes you unreasonably happy?
  18. Which decade would you live in for a year, and why?
  19. What's the funniest thing that's happened to us?
  20. If we had a theme song, how would it go?

Would you rather questions

Quick choices that turn into surprisingly good conversations.

  1. Would you rather have a cozy night in or a spontaneous night out?
  2. Would you rather travel somewhere new or return to a place we loved?
  3. Would you rather get a handwritten letter or a surprise date?
  4. Would you rather know what I'm thinking for a day or have me know what you're thinking?
  5. Would you rather live by the beach or in the mountains?
  6. Would you rather cook together or try a new restaurant?
  7. Would you rather relive our first date or skip ahead to our 50th anniversary?
  8. Would you rather have a weekend with no phones or a weekend with no plans?
  9. Would you rather win a dance-off or a cooking contest together?
  10. Would you rather get breakfast in bed or a long massage?
  11. Would you rather have a big wedding-style party or a tiny dinner with close friends?
  12. Would you rather road-trip with no destination or follow a perfect itinerary?
  13. Would you rather always say what you feel or always know what I feel?
  14. Would you rather have a pet together or a garden together?
  15. Would you rather watch the sunrise or the sunset with me?
  16. Would you rather plan every date for a year or let me plan them all?
  17. Would you rather live one year abroad together or build our dream home?
  18. Would you rather have a song written about us or a painting of us?
  19. Would you rather spend a rainy day reading together or gaming together?
  20. Would you rather get one big surprise a year or small surprises every week?

Appreciation questions

Say the good things out loud. It's easy to forget.

  1. What's something I did this week that you appreciated?
  2. When did I last make you laugh really hard?
  3. What's a quality of mine you'd like to have yourself?
  4. Which small habit of mine do you secretly love?
  5. What's a moment you felt really supported by me?
  6. What do you think I'm better at than I realize?
  7. When did you first think “this one is special”?
  8. What's something I do that makes your life easier?
  9. Which of our traditions means the most to you?
  10. What's a compliment you've wanted to give me but haven't?
  11. When did you feel most proud of me?
  12. What's something about the way I love you that feels unique?
  13. Which memory of us do you return to when you miss me?
  14. What's a challenge we got through that made us stronger?
  15. What's one word you'd use for how I make you feel?
  16. What do you think our friends like most about us as a couple?
  17. What's a time I surprised you in a good way?
  18. Which of my quirks have you grown to love?
  19. What's something I taught you without realizing it?
  20. What are you most grateful for in our relationship right now?

Future & dreams questions

Dream out loud together, big and small.

  1. Where do you see us living in five years?
  2. What's one adventure you want us to have before we're 40, or 60?
  3. What does a perfect ordinary Tuesday look like, years from now?
  4. What's a skill you'd love us to learn together?
  5. How do you picture our home: busy and loud, or calm and quiet?
  6. What's a tradition you want us to start?
  7. What's a dream you've put on hold that I could help with?
  8. How do you want to celebrate our next anniversary?
  9. What do you want to be known for, as a person?
  10. What would we do with a whole year off together?
  11. How do you feel about money goals: saving, spending, giving?
  12. What's one thing you want to stop doing in the next year?
  13. How do you imagine us when we're old?
  14. What's a place you want to show me one day?
  15. What would make next year our best year yet?
  16. What kind of friends do you want us to be to others?
  17. Which big decision are you most excited for us to make?
  18. What's a small luxury you want in our future routine?
  19. How do you want to handle busy seasons, so we stay close?
  20. What does “home” mean to you?

Long distance questions

For couples in different cities, countries or time zones.

  1. What's the first thing you want to do when we see each other again?
  2. What part of your day do you most wish I could see?
  3. Which of our calls has been your favorite so far?
  4. What helps you most on the days you miss me?
  5. What's a date we could do over video this week?
  6. What's something about your city you want to show me?
  7. How can I make you feel close, even from far away?
  8. What's a small ritual we could share across time zones?
  9. Which song makes you think of us when we're apart?
  10. What's a package you'd love to get from me?
  11. How do you feel after we say goodbye at the airport?
  12. What's something we do better because of the distance?
  13. Where would you want us to meet halfway for a weekend?
  14. What's one thing you want to plan for when we live closer?
  15. What's a show we could watch at the same time?
  16. How do you like to be reassured when the distance feels hard?
  17. What's a memory from our last visit you keep thinking about?
  18. What time of day do you miss me most?
  19. What's a goal we're working toward that makes the distance worth it?
  20. If I could teleport to you right now, what would we do first?

Spicy (light) questions

Flirty, playful and never explicit. A little warmer than usual.

  1. What's the first thing you noticed about me?
  2. What's the most attractive thing I do without realizing it?
  3. Which outfit of mine is secretly your favorite?
  4. When did you first want to kiss me?
  5. What's a compliment from me you still think about?
  6. Would you rather have a slow dance in the kitchen or a surprise kiss in public?
  7. What's one small thing I do that makes you want me closer?
  8. Where's the most unexpected place you've wanted to kiss me?
  9. What song makes you think of us in a romantic way?
  10. What's the most romantic moment we've had that I might not know was special to you?
  11. What's your favorite way for me to say good morning?
  12. Which date of ours would you love to relive?
  13. What's something flirty you've wanted to text me but didn't?
  14. When do you think I look my best?
  15. What's your idea of a perfect date night in?
  16. What's a little gesture of mine that gives you butterflies?
  17. Would you rather get a love note in your bag or a surprise call during the day?
  18. What's the most romantic thing someone could do for you?
  19. What's one thing you'd love us to do more often, just the two of us?
  20. How would you describe our chemistry in three words?

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LoveBits gives you one question a day. You each answer on your own phone and only see each other's answer once you've both replied.